The decision to get married is a big one, but following that, there are other large decisions that need to be made as well. One of those decisions is whether or not you are going to have a prenuptial agreement. If you need to tell your fiancé that you want a prenuptial agreement, you are probably worried about the result and feelings of your fiancé when you tell them.
There are a variety of ways to approach your fiancé about a prenuptial agreement; however, it is important to remember to keep your fiancé’s feelings in mind. Chances are that if they aren’t expecting it, they may feel a little hurt. This is where your sweet talking comes into play a bit, although it really isn’t sweet talking, if you follow a few points of advice.
First off, you need to address the subject of a prenuptial agreement when the two of you are alone and in private. Tell your fiancé that you have a serious conversation that you need to have. Bring up the subject ensuring that you linger on a few key points.
A prenuptial agreement does cover assets, both yours and your fiancés. A prenuptial agreement is a two way street – it isn’t just about you and what you own, but rather what your fiancé owns as well. The most common reasons for a prenuptial agreement are common in second marriages, especially when there are children from another marriage. Prenuptials are also popular if there is a significant difference in each of the spouse’s financial resources and premarital wealth. Stay with these specific points – you can’t barrel into the conversation stating that you are the one with everything and make your fiancé feel like they have nothing. Contrary to the point, a prenuptial agreement is there to protect your assets, but it is also there to protect the assets of your fiancé.
The best way to tell your fiancé that you want a prenuptial agreement is to go with facts and figures. You should also insist that your fiancé have their own attorney, different from the one of your choosing, to look over and help with their side of the prenuptial agreement. There’s a lot at stake, and you want to make sure that the prenuptial agreement is just that – an agreement. If your fiancé feels under duress or strain to sign the prenuptial agreement you could find yourself with an invalid prenuptial agreement when you are divorcing.
It is hard to discuss the concept of divorce and death with your fiancé before you’re even married, but it is better to do so earlier, rather than later. These are tough decisions to make in some cases, and it’s much better to make them while you are still happy and in love and not under the emotional and financial stress of a divorce proceeding. Ensure that you really listen to what your fiancé has to say about a prenuptial agreement.